We thought it would be nice to interview some of the women who inspire us… to share their thoughts and journeys, and hopefully inspire all of you as well! For our first interview, Russelle interviewed Priestess and Healer Brandi Auset. You can also visit her webpage at: http://brandiauset.com/z/
Here’s what Brandi had to share with us. Enjoy!
On your website it mentions that you were called to heal from a young age. How old were you and how were you able to recognize the calling? Were your family members supportive? Were there other family members who had been called in a similar way? How did they either support, or influence your decision and journey, and was it all positive?
I was around sixteen when I knew that spirituality would be my way of life. My clairvoyant and clairaudient skills I’ve had as long as I can remember. I didn’t start paying attention to it until I was ten years old or so. I started noticing that the things I was dreaming about were coming to pass. And then I started keeping a journal to keep track of all the times I heard a voice, or saw a spirit, etc. I remember telling my mother about a ghost in my room – some creepy old mean smelly dead dude – and she said, “Yeah, that happens sometimes. Just tell it to go away.” She said it so matter of fact that it didn’t occur to me that there was anything unusual about experiencing these types of things. But that’s as far as those types of conversations went.
Everyone in my immediate family is intuitive in some way, but when I was a child it was something we didn’t talk about. We all could just do what we did – see spirits, heard voices, foresight, that kind of thing. It wasn’t until my mother and sister became born-again Christians that any type of spiritual or religious conversation really happened. I was a teenager around that time, and by that point I had already become a regular at metaphysical stores, reading tarot cards and learning energy work.
There was a lot of friction in my family for awhile because of the different paths. I was all about paganism and they were all about Jesus – so saying we didn’t get along is putting it mildly. But the older I got and the more we all grew in our spiritual wisdom, eventually my mother and sister came to understand that I wasn’t a devil worshipper, or doomed to Hell. We we’re all worshipping the same principles of God, just under a different name. My mother and sister both are now ministers and we interchange information a lot. My mother is a brilliant teacher and amazing at prayer, and my sister is a gifted empath and counselor. We are all headed to the same point, just taking a different path to get there.
Did you ever have any doubts about your path, and if you did, how did you deal with your fears. What were the fears? (I only ask this to clarify for other women who are either afraid of success, afraid of being alone, not being able to define themselves by a man, failing etc.)
I had plenty of doubts and fears – I still do. I call it “the voice in my head that’s trying to kill me.” We all know that voice, that whisper in the back of your mind that tells you how much you suck at everything. I shut that voice down by reminding myself of all the things I’ve accomplished – the big and small.
When I first started out, mainly I doubted my abilities. I mean, who the hell was I? Who cared what I had to say about anything? I was scared I would be doing nothing but making a fool of myself, that I would alienate friends and family by doing what I felt in my heart was right for me. I was terrified of failure, of success, of being financially destitute and of being romantically alone. I was afraid I would be too strange, too offbeat for anyone to like or love. I guess that changed when I realized I was miserable trying to be what other people expected. I figured I could please everyone else and continue to pray for death daily, or I could be myself and follow my dreams and be happy – even if it meant no one would ever understand me, or that I would be alone. I honestly just weighed the options, and to me, the risk of falling flat on my face was worth it. I may fail, but at least my life wouldn’t be wasted trying to be something I wasnt.
My motto became “What’s the worst that can happen?” And for every situation, I answered that question. By assessing the situation honestly, I realized that all the fears I had were based off my own feelings of inadequacy. So I went for it, embraced the spiritual artist lifestyle. And though there were rough patches, I found work, success, and friends and lovers who accept me for who I am, who support instead of demean. Most importantly, I’m happy with myself, and I know I’ve made a difference in people’s lives. I think the key is remembering everybody is afraid of something. Everyone doubts themselves at one point or another. But the brave, the successful are the ones who were afraid and did it anyway.
In your varied practices, what are the biggest problems you see women struggling with today, especially in this very Patriarchal Society we live in, and here specifically in Los Angeles – the land where we only appreciate youth.
The problem I see most often is fear. Generally speaking, many women have this overwhelming fear of being themselves, of being honest about what they want from their life. Maybe because if they are honest about how they feel, that means they have to do something about it. A lot of women think they have to fit into society’s idea of femininity, that they have to look, act and live a certain way in order to be loved and appreciated. If what they desire doesn’t fit that role, they ignore it. And then they wonder why they are so unhappy.
I don’t run across the youth issue too much – other than some women feeling like they are too old to start life anew, to do the things they always dreamed of. But I say it’s not over until it’s over! If you’ve always dreamed about being a dancer, get out there and dance. What difference does it make how old you are? Do the things that make your heart sing, the outrageous stuff that makes you smile. At the end of my life, I’d rather have a ton of cool stories to tell than a list of ‘coulda shoulda woulda.’
If you could snap your fingers and give back to women the biggest thing you think they have lost – what would it be?
I think women have lost their sense of Self. We have no idea who we are or what we are capable of, and we look to the media to tell us. Youth is key, white is alright, if you’re thin you’re in are just an example of the negative ideas that are pumped into our brains on a daily basis, and we buy into it. But it’s simply not true. Women need to remember their history, or their herstory as the case may be.
So, I would snap my fingers and give women a different foundation. I would give women their stories back. Every woman in the world would have a mental movie of every woman that came before them. Kind of like a visual timeline implanted in her brain. Then she would be able to literally see the strength, the love, the wisdom she is derived from, that authority that pulses in her blood. She would see the success and the failures, the sacrifices and the triumphs of her ancestors and know she is made from that power. And hopefully she would realize that everything she has ever wanted to be, she already is; everything she has ever admired and loved was just a reflection of herself.
In this day and age, what do you think is the most important thing we can give to our children?
I think it’s important to teach a child how to express themselves, and give them room to grow, to mess up, to trip and to fall. But the second part of giving them the freedom to discover who they are is teaching them how to fail gracefully. I don’t think children today are being taught how to properly deal with rejection and failure because everyone is too concerned with hurting someone’s feelings. When I was growing up if you had a problem with somebody, you met them afterschool and everybody watched while you pinwheeled fists at each other; then the fight was over and the next day you and your mortal enemy were best friends again. If you asked someone to the dance and she said no, you asked somebody else – you didn’t shoot yourself. This generation, with the suicides, the shootings, the bullying, all the violence… it’s just doesn’t make sense to me. I don’t know, maybe the most important thing we can teach children is common sense.
What is the most important practice, something you do every day, to stay as open to all and true to yourself and your journey as you are?
There are a few things I do daily to stay aligned with Spirit and my truth. I have a morning ritual, customized for me, by me.
The first is I journal every morning, as soon as I wake up, for a minimum of three pages. It’s a practice I picked up from reading “The Artist Way” by Julia Cameron – which is an amazing book that every creative person should invest in. Journaling daily not only clears out the clutter in the mind, but establishes good author habits. You learn to write regardless of your mood. And a journal is the one place where I feel I can be completely honest about my experience because no one is going to see the pages but me. Within that honesty, I find the solution to whatever problem or issue it is I may be facing.
Next is coffee. If I haven’t had my coffee, just stay the hell away from me. For your own safety.
And finally, meditation. I spend at least twenty minutes in meditation every morning, giving myself the opportunity to commune with Spirit. I follow different techniques, depending on the day; sometimes it’s visualizations, other times its transcendental, etc. As of late, I’m focusing on the Buddhist tradition – sitting in silence, letting things flow as they may. But a minimum of 20 minutes, every morning. It’s vital for spiritual people to keep a daily connection with the Universe/Goddess/etc., because the more you talk/commune to God, the more It talks/communes with you. This connection is the basis of my creativity, and my life’s purpose. So I make sure to honor that connection to life and love every day.